Living with a loner can be beneficial and good for your mental health. Only if you can see the benefits, understand, and appreciate them for who they are. Living with a loner may not be a threat to you or your health. However, some people contradict the term “loner”, to someone who is suffering from psychological, emotional, and mental problems. No, it is not!
Being a loner refers that you prefer to be by yourself, rather than with others. It could be, that you dislike noise in any form. Hence, being alone keeps your mind and thoughts straight or together, depending on a given circumstance and your personality predilections. However, this could be good or bad for your health.
Most people perception of a loner
Being a loner can be viewed in a negative context. However, if you are living with a loner, you need to identify the root of the behaviour. Is it one’s personality trait or the individual is a loner because of what happened in the individual’s life? Identifying, the signs of loneliness at the early stage and knowing the cause of it will help the person to overcome loneliness.
A loner as a personality trait can be regarded as the disposition of one’s life. Therefore, recognising the signs of loneliness and understanding the difference between; a loner by personality and a loner because of life experiences, will be beneficial to you. In addition, if a person becomes a loner because of past experiences, living with them can be boring to you and you would not want to associate with them. Therefore, knowing the necessary steps to overcome loneliness will be a good guide to co-exist with one another.
However, you can help by finding out what they truly want, their interests and activities they like to participate, in and recommend them for a therapist session. remember you are not doing this for them to appreciate you but to assist them to get back on track. I said earlier, that staying with a loner can benefit your health but here are what you need to know.
Who is a loner?
A loner is an individual who likes enjoying and doing things by themselves, diligently circumventing interaction with other people. There could be possible reasons for their seclusion, including being a mystic, spiritual, religious, personal considerations and introverted. Introvert as one of the characteristics of personality shares the same attributes as a loner, it does not mean the person is suffering from any psychological problems. But that is who they are, unlike an extrovert who enjoys going out and making friends.
However, these are the benefits of living with a loner.
Time for concentration
Living with a loner will give you so much time to concentrate and accomplish your project, you have more time to focus and pay detailed attention to your work, with nobody to distract you or even bother you. Loners on the other hand appreciate it when you concentrate on your project as well.
They love to see you win
As much they like staying on their own, they always want to see you win as the only one they got, they pay attention to some of the things that are important in your life and can even on their own make ways to achieve these goals. You just have to come back and tell them how successful you were on that project.
They pay attention to details
Living with a loner can easily increase bonds because they do not have many friends to distract them, they give you that attention, and will always have you in their minds too. No matter how a loner is, there are things, people, or persons they pay close attention to because these persons also desire love, and they know that the only way they could get that is by giving out the little they have.
Loners are goal-getters
Do not be surprised, loners can surprise you with their success stories. They put more energy and time into whatever they do in other to accomplish their specific goals. They try as much as possible to eliminate distractions to enable them to focus on their mission and goals.
As much as you believe that loners are not boring, trust me you may not want to share your environment with some people that derive joy from noise. while they are in a meeting or communal environment, playing loud songs, screaming, and jumping. Staying in such environments with this type of people may cause some psychological problems. Ranging from insomnia, (inability to sleep) unable to concentrate and could even lead to depression. But living with a loner in an environment, you may not even remember you have people around you and just focus on achieving your goals.
It strengthens relationship
Keeping friendship, hanging out with friends, communicating and secure social support systems is beneficial to your well-being and mental health. However, taking a break and moving it solo in a while may guide you to recognize those connections and appreciate them more. Therefore, most relationship after taking a break strengthens more when both parties are reconciled because they have realized the importance of others in their lives.
They enjoy their own company
Living with a loner? You will be glad that you do not need to worry when you are going on a trip because you are sure they are able to take care of themselves and you do not need to worry much about them.
They are independent
Loners enjoy accomplishing their tasks by achieving their desired goals by themselves. These people are set to be productive in a less conspicuous way that you may not be aware of until they tell you what they have accomplished.
They are hard-working
Because they are aware that no one got their back. Even when they have support, they hardly disturb or command people around. With this, they are focusing on fending for themselves, taking care of their responsibilities, and keeping themselves happy.
They respect your privacy
Living with loners you will observe they respect others’ privacy because that is what they want for themselves as well. They also want their privacy by displaying it first from their attitude. They would not want to barge into your room because they know how it feels.
The bottom line
Are you living with a loner? Living with a loner will help you achieve your aims if there is a mutual understanding between both of you. This helps to strengthen the bonds.
However, if your person becomes a loner from what they passed through, it could be detrimental to their lives. Thus you do not want your loved one to become a loner, due to circumstances of life. Visiting a therapist will be of help to the person and the person will be fine again. With this, we need to pay attention to people around us and try our possible best to live happily.