Who is Jai’Colby’E Kirvin?
Jai’Colby’E Kirvin is a rising author aiming to put out excellent books that can help children and young adults become better people. Jai’Colby’E Kirvin graduated from Jarvis Christian College with a bachelor’s in social work. He is now attending Stephen F. Austin to get his master’s to assist individuals in gaining new skills, healing, and educating themselves.
In the current world, predators try to use the grooming process to initiate a relationship with a child so that the Child can drop their shield. Predators rely solely on trust to build the connection to get close to a child and sexually assault them.
About Jai’Colby’E Kirvin’s Book
Before delving into what brought you here, let’s look at Erikson’s eight psychosocial stages; this will help you identify how the psychosocial life of children evolves. Erikson believed that every Child’s stage is progressive. For example, suppose the stage needs to be better handled. In that case, the Child will appear to feel inadequate. In contrast, when the stages are adequately dealt with, the Child will develop a sense of mastery, sometimes referred to as ego quality or ego strength.
Summary Chart of Psychosocial stages according to Erikson
Age Conflict Important Events Outcome
Infancy (birth to 18 months) Trust vs. Mistrust Feeding Hope
Early Childhood (2 to 3 years) Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt Toilet Training Will
Preschool (3 to 5 years) Initiative vs. Guilt Exploration Purpose
School Age (6 to 11 years) Industry vs. Inferiority School Confidence
Adolescence (12 to 18 years) Identity vs. Role Confusion Social Relationships Fidelity
Young Adulthood (19 to 40 years) Intimacy vs. Isolation Relationships Love
Middle Adulthood (40 to 65 years) Generativity vs. Stagnation Work and Parenthood Care
Maturity (65 to death) Ego Integrity vs. Despair Reflection on Life Wisdom
Credit: Very well mind (a summary of the eight stages)
This assault tends to impact their personality and self-esteem negatively and to see the world as a no-safe place. Knowing that strangers and close relatives could use this grooming process to change the Child’s identity will help limit the chances of their operations.
Hence, Jai’Colby’E Kirvin has helped summarize this ruthless behaviour in a language children would understand using his book “NO NO Square.”
Here are Signs of Grooming According to the Author of No-No Square
Target Specific Type of Child that is Lonely and Vulnerable;
Vulnerability can even make an adult fall into the wrong hands and talk more of children who needs love, care and support from their parents and guardians. Are you a mother, father or parent who always pays so much attention to business leaving these children in the hands of these predators? Of course, it is suitable for parents to fend for their kids, but it should be balanced so that the kids won’t feel alone at some point.
Predators will Try to Fulfil a Need to Get Closer to the Child.
This involves providing support to the Child, even to your present, to make it appears genuine to you and the Child. Children at their age may regard the treatment as care and love, entrusting themselves to these predators without knowing that something is attached to it.
Isolate the Child From the Parents and Others
As parents, sharing bonds with your children is required so that even at the stage of isolating the Child from you as a parent, the Child will identify the improper touch and wouldn’t be afraid of withdrawing and disclosing the awful behaviour to you.
Try to Create a Culture of Secrecy
Because you, as a parent, fail to identify the initial signs, the predators take over by telling the Child not to inform you and might even give a threat that will hunt and affect the Child.
Will the Sexualize the Relationship
If you don’t teach the Child these signs and the consequences of it, there will be a high chance for the predators to sexualize the Child.
Every day we hear cases of child abuse, abuse survivors and the negative impact of these behaviours on their mental health. Therefore, abuse survivors confidently reveal this gruesome behaviour because they weren’t aware of the consequences and the main plan of predators. However, individual who cannot or are still at the fear of the threat tends to suffer from emotional, psychological, and mental health-related problems like depression, and low self-esteem, which may also lead to suicidal ideation.
Protecting and training children by positively investing in their education, spiritual life, and mental, emotional, and psychological well-being is beautiful. In achieving this, You will see you have won the battle of despair according to Erickson’s psychosocial development theory.